How to Speak in Public| How to Develop Self Confidence| Public Speaking

Public speaking is a nightmare for many ones, always having a fear of speaking in public,used to run whenever have been called upon stage to deliver something.

In spite of having a lot of preparations still not able to deliver the content properly,feeling nervous as you reach on the stage,brain stops working,your thinking power chokes,body starts shivering. Well some of you must be wondering that this is not their cup of tea,but public speaking is a skill which can be learnt from practice.People who are good in Speaking in public are the one's who are practicing this for a long time so you can also do this by practice,you only need to push yourself and practice on it.

Before learning public speaking skill you must make yourself very clear in your mind that why you want to do this means you need a strong desire to learn something.Second thing is whatever you are going to deliver you have to be prepare very well for it because good preparation will bring confidence.And try to feel confident because what you feel is what you act and last practice practice practice for your talk and this will diminish your fear of speaking in public.

So this Post will tell you important points how to prepare well for your speech and speak fearlessly in public.Starting with the very famous Quote

"Speech is Power:Speech is to Persuade,to Convert,to Compel"

                                                                                          -Ralph Waldo Emerson

1.Self Confidence through preparation:-

When a speaker has a true message in his heart then the audience always get to feel it and their interest in the speaker raises that's why it is said if a speech is well prepared then the 90% of the work of delivering it is done. Everyone wants to increase their confidence but the preparation which is needed,no one is ready for that.If you want to speak fabulously well in public then why not to prepare for it.Good preparation is not only framing the good sentences and poetry.
    The real preparation is to dig yourself and collect all the ideas and shaping them towards an end. Never try to prepare your speech in a hurry,as it is not like your noodles which you can prepare in 2 minutes moreover it is a like flower which require proper nourishment for growth.You should select your topic early and have at least one week for preparation.Whenever you get the time think about your topic and try to discuss it with your friends.
    Our life is full of feelings and experience,try to bring out everything which you have in your mind related to the topic,this is the method which was used by Abraham Lincoln and same method is used by all successful speakers and now when you are done with your thoughts on the topic then start reading books on the topic and search on the web for it,try to collect the material as much as you can and don't think for editing it initially.

Luther King was used to grow a number of plants to only get one or two good varieties of plants similarly you should also try to gather various information and at last filter out the important information and leave the rest,this will lead you towards having the amazing content on the topic and you will get to know about various aspect of the topic which will up lift your confidence.

2.Improve Your Memory:-

After writing down your speech or presentation the next important step is to learn it so that you should not forget it on the stage.A professor found in his study that a normal human is only able to use 10% of his memory and rest 90% is wasted because they don't use 3 natural laws of memory.

     i)First law of memory is Impression:-

You are required to have a clear and deep impression of the material which you want to learn or memorize.For the good impression you are required to focus only on only one thing at a time because concentration increases your power of doing the work .

    Then observe the things properly,try to note down everything.One is not able to learn to things most of times because one doesn't observe them properly,always try to get the impression from more possible ways.Abraham Lincoln was used to read things loudly so that he could get two impressions one from his eyes(seeing) and second one through his ears(listening).Abraham Lincoln had a very strong memory and he used to say his memory is like steel on which it is hard to write but harder to erase if written once.And finally remember this that impressions taken from your eyes are the strongest because nerves connecting eyes through the brain are 25 times more powerful than the nerves connecting the ear to brain.

     ii)Second law of memory is Repetition:-

So many people in the world used to learn the religious books which have so many pages by repetition only. But repetition should also be done in an effective manner.Don't try to learn the things in one go only instead of this you should try to learn it in intervals and with this method you will be able to learn it in half of the time you would have taken to learn in one go.The translator of 'Arabian Nights' Richard Burton was used to speak 27 languages and once he confessed that he hadn't practice more than 15 minutes to learn a language in one go and due to this he used to keep his mind fresh and was able to learn more.

     iii)Third law of memory is Association:-

The best way to learn something is to associate it with something.Whenever you want to store something in your mind then first introduce it completely and if you want to learn any fact then try to relate it with something in your mind. Like memorizing the names of new people you can try to ask them questions like what they do,from where they are and if someone tells his name as "John" and he used to do theaters then you can relate John with theaters and memorize his name.

Similarly to memorize the dates you should try to associate them with the something known which could be any event or any previous date.

After doing all the exercises,if u still forget something on the stage then you can try to ask some questions to audience like are you audible to all or anything related here you will get some time to recall your lines.

3.Secret of Good Delivery:-

Two friends prepared for a comedy show with same jokes,same punch lines,same punctuation everything was same and went for the show.One had his show in morning and other one in the evening but only one of them was liked by the audience instead of having same jokes,they were getting different response,this was due to the way of delivering the content in front of public.One friend was able to connect with his audience whereas the other one was making them bore.

So how we deliver is more important than what we deliver because the flavor you can add in your words while delivery is more important than the words you have to deliver.

Sometimes many people used to ignore their audience while delivering their speech having no eye contact with them and getting them bore and this way a communication gap takes place between the audience and the speaker. In today's world audience wants that speaker should talk to them as he is talking with them personally and like a friend with the same energy.While speaking in public don't try to copy others always try to be yourself,try to bring your own flavor and your personality as your talk is an expression of your thoughts and personality. Initially you can face a bit problem with your natural tone but by practicing it you could be a master of it over a period of time as " Practice makes a Human perfect".

And while your talk with public you should keep in mind these 4 things-

• Emphasize on the important words, try to get the attention of audience on these words.
• Change the pitch of your voice according to the importance of sentences,this will keep the        attention of your audience.
• Speed up when something is less important and slow down at important points.
• Pause around important ideas or facts so that they could come in notice and get highlighted.

Some Miscellaneous Tips:

• Always keep an smile on your face.
• Dress up well to stay confident and feel good.
• Speak Fearlessly and your words will definitely reach to the audience.
• Keep good body balance and have a proper standing position.
• Have clarity of voice,clarity of thoughts.
• Authenticity in your talk as it gets recognition of audience.
• Try to adopt yourself according to the situation.
• Always be thankful to those who gave you the opportunity to speak in front of Public and thankful to the public for listening you.

I have shared this knowledge after reading the book "How to Develop Self-Confidence and Influence People by Public Speaking" by "Dale Carnegie".If you want to explore more you can also read the book.

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